Thursday, June 5, 2014

Pregnancy and other random thoughts

way back at 24 weeks I think
I know most people who read this blog probably know already through facebook or word of mouth, but since the last post we found out we're having a girl and a week later got hired full time with Seminaries and Institutes for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints!  We are thrilled with both!  The last day of school is tomorrow at Riverton High school where Preston has been teaching since March, but he is getting transferred to Alta High school for next year, so he made the move today since classes are over already.  The pros are that it's super close to where we are now with his parents!  The cons are that it's adjusting to a new faculty, and it's hard to find nice houses nearby in our budget.  But at least we have somewhere to stay until we can find a place we like!

We are also getting excited for our little girl!!  Names have proven more difficult this time around. With the boys we never "picked" the name until we met them, but we had a favorite (which they both ended up getting named).  This time I feel like there are lots of names that I like or am ok with, but none have stuck out as a definite favorite.  Right now the favorites are Claire or Emmy.  But we shall see. We still have 8 weeks to go until the due date (July 27th!) ;)

So, yesterday we went to the temple and on our way home decided to stop for ice cream at sub zero cuz we had a coupon.  There was a group of 3-4 boys around 11 years old and a couple moms who were just getting their ice cream when we walked in. When they were finished the boys were jumping off a leather couch to slide across the leather ottoman they had there.  For a split second I started thinking "who lets their kids do that?!"  But then remembered my own rambunctious boys at home who like to play wrestling or crashing games that are just as crazy.  Plus, I don't know what it's really like with older boys yet, so who am I to judge?  But we did watch them and then I turned to Preston and said "this is why we need a girl. . . to balance out the craziness of boys!" We both laughed and a second later one of the moms said to us "are you thinking you don't want kids now? ;)"  I'm sure she had seen us watching them and then talking about it and I was so grateful I had chosen not to comment on how disrespectful their behavior was or anything negative that I probably could have.  It was nice to be able to just share what we had said and laugh with them instead.  Being a mom is not always easy and I see so many moms picking too many battles with their kids.  Some moms maybe don't pick enough or set enough rules.  But, so long as we are trying and doing what we feel is our best, isn't that enough? That was my "words of wisdom" to myself with this experience and I thought I'd share.  You never know who notices you judging them and it's really not worth hurting feelings when you don't know the big picture.


My cute, crazy boys I love so much!!


1 comment:

Meagan @ Meagan Tells All said...

So excited for you to have a girl Angie! We are hoping to have a boy next. We need to balance out the pink and the drama!

But you're so right about judging and picking battles. I feel like I will always be harder on Brinley because she's the oldest and my first born, but your post reminded me that she is still so young and picking bigger battles is much more important than the little things that she does that are just normal kid things.

Glad you guys are settling in Utah! Great news about Preston! So many blessings for your family!